I thought about that but it’s a bit too much of an assumption I think. I mean if we’re going to judge total strangers, damn it there’s a right way and a wrong way!

Someone who sets reasonable boundaries for a child and takes care of themselves in the presence of the child.

Everything else is sometimes understandable, sometimes excusable, but almost always confusing for kids.

And sorry, sometimes Grandma has to be Mom under circumstances which he can’t jump to conclusions about. It may not be ideal, but it’s reality and sometimes they’re better off.